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Anne Evans-Cazier, LCSW

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As a little girl growing up in Los Angeles I took the bus to and from school.  Each afternoon there was what seemed to me to be an immense line of buses outside the school, and each bus had a colored sign so you could tell which one to get on, even before you could read. This was all well and fine and I had no trouble finding my bus, getting on and then off at the right stop. The trouble came when somehow I missed it when the teacher explained to us that the routes had changed and we might have a new color.  That afternoon I confidently got on what I thought was the same bus as usual and we started to head out.  It wasn’t long before I began to look around and realize that I didn’t recognize any of the other kids on the bus and that we were definitely not headed towards my neighborhood!  

Now you might think that a reasonable thing for a child to do at this point would be to ask for some help, but I was very shy and asking someone I didn’t know, either another kid or even the bus driver, seemed totally out of the question.  As I sat there, torn between the shame of admitting that I had gotten on the wrong bus and the terror of sitting there not knowing where I was going, I suddenly realized that we were not too far from my friend Eileen’s house. 

AnnieSo what did I do? 

I pretended I knew what I was doing and got off at the next stop and started walking.  After the bus pulled out of sight I was a little less confident.  I really wasn’t that sure how to get to Eileen’s house from there, but I wandered around and around, circling back and forth, and eventually I found it.  Her family wasn’t home, so I sat on the front porch and waited, and waited, until finally they appeared and helped me get home.

Gratefully, nothing terrible happened to me that day because of my shyness, but I realize now that it was a part of a bigger pattern in my life.

I was too shy....

  • to ask for help if I didn’t understand the teacher’s instructions,
  • to ask if I could join the hopscotch game,
  • to ask to sit with someone at lunch.

So I did the assignment wrong, sat alone, and pretended I didn’t want or need friends or help.

It took me a long time to figure out better ways to handle my shyness.  Eventually I learned how to be a good student, to admit when I need help, to ask questions, and to reach out to others.  In the meantime, I missed out on many opportunities for growth, for fun, and for connection.  

How many kids who are struggling or not living up to their potential just really don’t know a better way to cope with whatever it is that is their challenge? 

The ideas you will find on this website can help you help children develop the resiliency skills they can use to face and overcome their challenges more effectively. 

Looking back I am sure that, if they had realized what I was going through, my parents, teachers, even other kids would have helped me figure things out faster than I managed to do it alone.  Later in life my mother and I were able to talk about this, and share a few tears and some good laughs.  She was an amazing woman with a deep love for others and a desire to help them.  Throughout her life I saw her make a difference in people’s lives over and over again, whether it was a child who came to live with us while getting treatments in a hospital, far from her home; a family who needed the dinner she had fixed for us more than we did; a neighbor who needed a good shoulder to cry on; or a bread-winner who needed an education.  I saw how many of her well-intended actions led to effective change.  Watching her inspired me to seek training, first as a teacher and later as a social worker.  I love helping people find their own strengths and see new possibilities for their lives.  I love knowing that the help I’m offering is based on sound research and effective methods.

Schedule an Appointment with Anne

I see individuals, couples and families on an on-going basis in my office in Salt Lake and should be contacted for appointments by email at evanscounselinginc@yahoo.com.

I am also now contracted through Couples Therapy Inc. Couples Retreats and International Online Couples Therapy  to see couples from around the globe through secure video conferencing, and to conduct individualized intensives for couples in person in my Salt Lake City office.  I can be contacted for these services through their website, by clicking here.

Anne Evans-Cazier

Licensed Clinical Social Worker 5970882-3501
1308 So. 1700 E, Suite 210,
Salt Lake City, UT 84108
(801) 419-3312
evanscounselinginc@yahoo.com
anne@resilientchild.com
www.evanscounseling.com

Education

MSW - May 1999, San Jose State University
BA - August 1975, University of Utah, Department of Education
Certificate in Social Welfare - 1975, University of Utah, Department of Social Work

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