Some time ago I heard a story about an old farmer walking with his grandson out to feed the pigs. On their short walk the grandfather gave the boy some simple advice, “Son, you can’t teach a pig to sing because it wastes your time and it irritates the Hell out of the pig.”
The boy was confused but, because he loved and trusted his grandfather, he pondered and thought about this philosophical gem over the years. Finally he figured out what his grandfather was trying to tell him. He will be more likely to succeed in life if he devotes his time and effort to things of true value. Time is precious for all of us and setting worthy life goals and working towards them is better than spending our time trying to teach a pig to sing.
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This story makes me think about how important it is that our goals take us towards things that are truly important to us.
Many people give up setting and working on goals because they set ones that aren't really connected to moving in the direction of things they value and want in their lives. Help your child think about what is important to them, and share your own values.
Do you value having fun as a family or kindness or adventure or what????
Why is it important to you? What does it represent to you? How has it helped you or others? Start where your child is right now. Maybe they really want to play legos more or make the soccer team or have more friends. Select one meaningful value or dream and then set one small goal that will help them move in that direction. Don't be afraid to start with some fun goals. Do you both value quality time as a family?
Set goals that free up time and energy to bake cookies, take hikes, read out loud together..whatever moves you towards the things you value. Having success with some pleasant goals can help start a pattern to support working on more difficult and challenging goals later on.