Sometime ago I had the privilege of visiting an older gentleman in his early 90s. As part of the conversation he shared some advice about how he lived his life. He said that he, “let the water run where it runs!”
This statement would have been confusing if I didn’t understand the context in which it was said. He was not saying that he lived his life without direction or guidance, wandering hither and thither, but rather he tried not to worry about those things he couldn’t control and worked to control those things that he could. For example, he couldn’t control what people thought of him so he developed a standard of living he thought was best for him and lived according to his personal plan and life goals. He recognized that all he could control was his attitude towards the challenges that came his way.
As I thought about this simple analogy I realized that helping our children develop this same philosophy and “let the water run where it runs” was an important resiliency skill that would be forever useful in their life.
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