Resiliency Toolkit Live

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Resiliency Toolkit Live

Thank you busy parents for reaching out! You have spoken, and we have been listening and learning from you already! We have heard from so many parents who want to participate, but either are not part of a couple or their partner is unable or uninterested in attending at this time.

So, if you are a parent and would like to be part of this exciting opportunity, please let us know by filling out the form to the right. -------->

You may attend on your own, or you may invite your parenting partner or any other support person you wish to attend with you. Your choice.

Apply today to enroll in this intimate, 7- part series beta class for parents with school aged children. Using the principles taught in our new Amazon #1 best-selling book, The Resiliency Toolkit: A Busy Parent’s Guide to Raising Happy, Confident, Successful Children, you will learn to set successful goals, communicate more effectively, and connect better with your child so she can enjoy a lifetime of success. Retail value of one-on-one parent coaching with Anne is $1400. Jump on this one time offer! Only $297

To find out if this experience is for you, ask yourself:

1. Do I have a strong desire to make a significant change in my family?

2. Why is that important to me? What would be the benefits?

Class Dates:

Meets on the following Friday evenings from 7:00 - 8:30 pm in Salt Lake City, Utah. September 20 & 27, October 11 & 25, November 8 & 22, & December 6. Address will be provided after registration is complete.

Application to Join the BETA Class!

Resiliency Toolkit Live Application

You may attend on your own, or you may invite your parenting partner or any other support person you wish to attend with you. Your choice. Resiliency Toolkit Live is an in-person beta test class for an online program we are offering in January 2020.

Have questions? Please contact us!

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What is included in the class?

•    Led by Calvert F Cazier, PhD, MPH and Anne Evans-Cazier, LCSW
•    Limited to 6 participants plus their partner or support person of their choice, if desired
•    Small and intimate group setting in Salt Lake City, Utah
•    Includes seven, 90-minute sessions
•    Private Facebook group
•    Q&A on FB group
•    Receive lots of feedback & support in between sessions
•    Retail value of one-on-one parent coaching with Anne is $1400. Jump on this one time offer! Only $297
•    To apply fill out the form to the right.-

What will I get out of this class?

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Course topics will evolve to meet the needs of the group. Participants in the beta course will be expected to provide on-going, in-depth feedback to shape the course. This will ensure that participants have a successful and meaningful experience and set the stage for the effectiveness of future courses.

Participants are expected to attend in person when at all possible. However, we know that being a parent adds complexity and the unexpected to life, so all sessions will also be recorded and will be available to course participants on a private group page at http://www.ResilientChild.com. Even if participants miss a session, they will be expected to listen to the recording as soon as possible and to complete the between sessions work.

We will get off to a strong start identifying an aspiration or dream each parent has for valued change in the family and setting specific, action oriented goals to move in that direction. Other potential topics include effective team building, emotional self-regulation and co-regulation, building secure attachment and deepening connection, values clarification, effective communication, negotiation, problem solving, and building other resiliency skills.

8 Steps to Getting the Most from The Resiliency Toolkit Live: A Parenting Course

Start with a clear understanding of the goals and objectives of the course.

This course is for you if you want to build greater resiliency in yourself and your family and are ready to take a deeper dive into becoming the best parent and partner you can. You will need to better know and understand yourself, your child, and your patterns of interaction with each other, and then apply this knowledge to stop repeating ineffective patterns and develop better ones.

Look at the big picture.

It’s easy to be considerate and loving to your family when the vistas are magnificent, the sun is shining and breezes are gentle. But when it gets bone chilling cold, you’re hungry and tired, and your child is whining and sniveling, that’s when you get tested. Your leadership and your character get tested. You can join the finger pointing or become the kind of parent you aspire to be.

Commit to learning about and practicing better communication.

Communication is the number one presenting problem in family relationships. Good communication is much more difficult than most people want to believe. Effective negotiation is even harder.
The three most important qualities for effective communication are: respect, openness and persistence.
You are responsible for how you express yourself, no matter how others treat you.

Make excellent use of your time in your parenting course.

Before each session:
Reflect on your objectives for being in the course.
Think about the next step towards your big-picture objectives for the kind of relationships you wish to create and the parent you aspire to become.

During each session:
Seek to better understand and appreciate how you interact with each other and with your child.
Focus on changing yourself rather than your child. The more you believe others should change, the less likely you are to change the patterns between you.
Try to figure out why you resist potentially beneficial changes.
Work to become a more effective parent; it’s the most efficient way to change relationships.

After each session:
Follow through. Follow through. Follow through.
Trust is a foundational building block of flourishing relationships, and nothing builds trust more than the integrity of following through and doing what you say you’ll do.
Practice. Practice. Practice. Trying new things means making new habits, which only comes through consistent practice over time.

Consider these tough questions:

  • In a strong disagreement, do you really believe others are entitled to their opinion?
  • Under duress, do you have the courage and tenacity to seek your child’s reality and the courage to express your reality when the stakes are high?
  • Why is it important to let child know what you think, feel and are concerned about? (Because they really can’t appreciate what they don’t understand.)
  • Can you legitimately expect your child to treat you better than you treat him/her?
  • Can you legitimately expect child to treat you better than you treat yourself?
  • If you want your child to change, what can you do to make it easier?
  • When a problem shows up, it’s natural to think “What should I do about it?”
A much more productive question is, “How do I aspire to be in this situation?”

Embrace the paradox.

All significant growth comes from disagreements, dissatisfaction with the current status, or a striving to make things better. Paradoxically, accepting that conflict produces growth and learning to manage inevitable disagreements is the key to more harmonious relationships.

Be prepared to face the difficult tradeoffs and tough choices you will likely face as you work to create the family relationships you really desire. These include:

Time. It takes time to create relationships that flourish.
Comfort. This means being willing to do hard things.
Effort. It takes effort to sustain improvement over time.
Giving up old, familiar reactions. This is the most difficult one for many people.

Some Final Thoughts.

You can’t create flourishing relationships by only fixing what’s wrong. But it’s a start.
Businesses and families fail for the same three reasons. A failure to:

  • Learn from the past
  • Adapt to changing conditions
  • Predict probable future problems and take action

Win-win solutions are possible. You deserve to have the relationships you dream of having, but as the author John Maxwell once said, dreams don’t work unless you do. Are you ready to work?

Thanks to Ellyn Bader, PhD, and Peter Pearson, PhD, of the Couples Institute for their inspiration.