Ready to go Undercover?

Well, here we are at Day 4 of our Valentine’s Day Warm Up. How is it going so far? Some people have told me that they are THINKING about doing the things we’ve been talking about, and, hey, that’s a great start! Wherever you are, I hope you feel inspired by thinking, and maybe even by a little DOING when you can

Day 4: Be Curious

I love that curiosity is defined as being eager to know. Imagine how it could change your life and relationships for the better if you were more eager to understand others, to be truly curious about why they think and feel the way they do.

Think about which of the people you love and care about you want to focus on today. Think about something they do that just doesn’t make any sense to you. Maybe it’s your partner who doesn’t follow through with what they promised to do or a child who lost another pair of new gloves or hit their brother, again.

Become a detective or an investigative journalist. With real curiosity, observe, ask, explore, ponder. As amazing as it may seem, what the other person said or did made perfect sense to them at that moment! Your job is not to agree, just to figure out how they are thinking and understanding the world, to be curious.

As a therapist, I’ve noticed that one of the strongest predictors of whether or not people can develop and nurture deep, long-lasting and satisfying relationships is their ability to empathize, to put themselves in the other person’s shoes and really see the world, not through their own eyes, but through the eyes of the other person.

So, be curious! It is the surest and fastest way to true empathy and deep connections that last.

Hoping you enjoy your adventure in curiosity,

Anne